Ever wonder why there are so many mixed couples nowadays in Singapore? When I say mixed couples, I mean specifically ang moh men with singapore women. There is such a huge growth in such relationships that it is no longer unusual to see these couples on the street as compared to 20 years ago when all they got were stares from bypassers. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against mixed relationship and I should be the last person to do so because I am married to an ang moh myself. The reason for this entry is I have received comments from not one singapore woman, not five but quite a number of them that they will not date singapore men. They rather date ang moh men. That baffles me and disturbs me at the same time. The first thing which dashed through my mind is, 'what's wrong with singapore men?' Well, the general answer is the singapore men they have dated are either jerks, bastards, good-for-nothings etc. Okay, but it does not mean the rest of the men in singapore are all assholes or good-for-nothings, I heard myself saying. One said, somehow the ones she comes into contact with, colleagues or friends, are often the 'undateable ones'. Another version is our men are not macho enough pyhsically when compared to their western counterparts. Or they can't carry themselves well and have no dress sense.
I caught myself shaking my head after hearing them. Somehow it saddens me. I beg to differ. It is so not true that singapore men are undateable and there are just too many narrow-minded people out there trying to diss these poor guys. I want to speak up for them! I for one have many guy friends and most of them are true gentlemen. They open doors for me, insist on paying my drinks/dinner/movie ticket, see to it that I get home safely (okay, I am certainly not a feminist) and they are also great conversationists, have a sense of humour, carry themselves well and not make a fool of themselves after a few drinks, have great dress sense, some are even talented in their own ways and best of all, filial to their parents. Good sons make good husbands, goes a chinese saying. Yes, some of our guys may be smaller in built but wouldn't it be more awkward to be with one whom your head is only up to his armpit? Think giant and dwarf. Some may ask why did I married an ang moh then. It is very simple, when my blue-eyed destiny came knocking on my door, there is no running away from it. I won't run away from my love. I consider it my loss not to have anything more with these great guys. And I am lucky I get to remain good friends with some of them.
My point is black sheeps tend to be everywhere, including Singapore and the western countries. I don't deny some singapore men can be pain in the ass. Even so I have known ang moh men who can't carry proper conversations, have no sense of humor, are tight bastards because they only pay for their own drinks, still live off their parents, smell bad and dress as if they are living in the 80's. Would any woman date them? Not me, for sure! Just because some women are stuck in their offices all day and don't have the chance or do not want to go out and meet new people give them no right or excuse to diss all singapore men. This just goes to show how limited their mindset is.
No wonder the ang moh men in Asia think they are god-send to the women there. My blood boils each time I see how some women throw themselves at every ang moh men or how these men treat these women with such little respect. No woman should ever be treated in this way.
There are sweet guys and jerks all over the world. I just wish my fellow country-guys are given the chance they deserve and are not being slammed at so quickly simply because of some local pricks or some demeritorious ang moh men.
It doesn't matter if a cat is black or white,
So long as it catches mice.
- Deng Xiaoping
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